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I grew up without alcohol in the house. My dad occasionally sipped a Cadillac Margaretta and champagne at brunch once a year. As I hit my college years I found alcohol was a part of the culture. We drank when we were happy. Drank when we were down, and drank because the day ended in Y. As I got into corrections I thought I was becoming a career professional. Little did I know my college drinking was preparing me for my new coping mechanism in my new job. I discovered rather quickly that alcohol and prison went together like peanut butter and jelly. Week one I was invited with the other third watch officers to the downtown bar for drinks after work. I of course said no because I had my life outside of work. Fast forward a year, and I couldn’t say no. My life now was corrections, and I lost sight of my outside life. Through the [...]

We’re excited to introduce a new regular column in the Correctional Oasis—Peer Support Perspectives! This space is dedicated to addressing the real-world challenges, questions, and situations that arise within peer support programs across public safety organizations. Each month, we’ll offer practical guidance and insights to help strengthen your agency’s peer support efforts and promote the well-being of those who serve. We invite you to submit your questions or scenarios to admin@desertwaters.com. Every submission will remain completely anonymous, with all identifying details removed before publication. Let’s learn from one another’s experiences and work together to build the strongest, most effective peer support teams possible! Why Should Public Agencies Invest in Peer Support Programs? Public safety professionals work in a career unlike any other—one that routinely exposes them to operational, organizational, and traumatic stressors. The weight of these experiences doesn’t stay at the workplace; it can spill over into every part of a person’s life—home, relationships, and individual well-being. Over time, the cumulative impact [...]

The holiday season is meant to be a time of joy, love, and connection with family and friends—and for some, a time of spiritual reflection. Yet, despite the festive cheer, this period can also bring stress, overindulgence, and exhaustion. This article explores common stressors of the season and offers practical strategies for reducing avoidable holiday strain. The Challenges of the Season From Thanksgiving through New Year’s, many of us experience overstimulation and overdrive. We may be on the go nonstop—overeating, overdrinking, overspending, and trying not to miss any fun. By the time the new year arrives, some face exhaustion, buyer’s remorse, and mounting holiday debt. Gift-giving can be a major source of stress. The pressure to find “perfect” gifts, compete with others, or give to everyone we know can leave us buying items we don’t truly want or need, simply to check boxes off a list. Similarly, competition over holiday décor, parties, and appearances can intensify stress. Social obligations—numerous events, [...]

What if I told you that two simple words—expressed with the right attitude at work—can improve both your inner atmosphere (your emotions and thoughts) and your outer atmosphere (the quality of your interactions with coworkers and those you supervise)? The benefits don’t stop there. They can even follow you home, enhancing your personal life as well. These two powerful words are “Thank you.” Research strongly supports what people have intuitively known for centuries: a thankful heart benefits both mind, body, and relationships. Here’s a brief summary, with links at the end for further reading. Expressing thankfulness activates our parasympathetic nervous system—our “rest and digest” response. This triggers a cascade of positive physiological effects: lower levels of stress hormones, slower heart rate, reduced blood pressure, increased heart rate variability (a good thing), muscle relaxation, improved digestion, reduced anxiety and hypervigilance, and improved mood. The result? Greater calm, contentment, emotional balance, and psychological resilience. At the same time, thankfulness reduces activation of the sympathetic nervous system—our “fight, flight, [...]

Thoughts and actions to end one’s life often arise from what feels like unbearable suffering—whether emotional or physical—combined with deep hopelessness that the pain will ever stop or that life can improve. This suffering may stem from an actual or perceived loss. Crucially, it is often accompanied by resistance—or even outright refusal—to accept the reality of one’s circumstances. The inner dialogue may sound like: “This can’t be happening. I won’t accept this. I won’t go on like this. No!” Such resistance to reality, refusing to accept what is true, ultimately harms us. Fighting facts does not change them—it only magnifies and prolongs our distress. As Marsha Linehan 1, a leading expert on suicide prevention and the creator of Dialectical Behavior Therapy, has said: “Acceptance is the only way out of hell.” She speaks from experience. In her early adult years, overwhelmed by emotional pain, she made repeated suicide attempts and spent two years in a psychiatric hospital. So, what exactly is Radical Acceptance? Why [...]

I was scrolling through social media recently, as I often do in the evenings before bed, when I came across a post I’ve seen far too many times before. You know the one—a correctional officer’s badge, a black mourning band draped across it, silently announcing the loss of another brother or sister behind the walls. It’s always sad. My first instinct is to wonder if it was someone I knew—someone I had worked with, trained alongside, or crossed paths with over the years. But this time, what struck me most wasn’t the image or the announcement. It was the very first comment under the post. Two words. “Who now?” The two words hit harder than the image. Their meaning was unmistakable, the truth undeniable: far too many posts like this, far too many corrections professionals lost too soon, some to suicide. The statistics back it up. And the weight of it keeps building. We’ve all felt it. But instead [...]

Reproduced with permission. Example 1: Out of Control Work is getting out of control. We had an emergency yesterday. I guess what really burns me is that no matter how hard you try or how well you do, the management still says it's not good enough. During yesterday’s emergency I was responsible for controlling all of the doors allowing staff to respond. Enough staff responded within one minute that the emergency was cleared in just over a minute. The Captain sent a Lieutenant to chew me out because he had to wait more than five seconds at a door. He was upset that other staff beat him to the emergency and he wasn't the first responder to the incident. I told the Lieutenant that I don't send responders to emergencies by rank. I send them by who can get there fastest. The Captain is one of these past Tactical Team leaders and a hoo flung doo expert who thinks [...]

Emotional intelligence, or EQ, is essential for building a fulfilling and sustainable career in the high-stress world of corrections. EQ involves the ability to recognize, understand, and manage our own emotions, as well as effectively navigate interactions with others—skills that directly influence our well-being and workplace relationships. Far from being “soft,” emotional intelligence is a powerful set of competencies that shape the work environment and organizational culture. In high-stakes situations, EQ can make the difference between de-escalation and peaceful resolution—or injuries, policy violations, litigation, and even loss of life. In this article, I briefly explore the nature of emotions, the benefits of learning to regulate them, methods for processing emotional distress, and how to “apply the brakes” when we feel like we’re about to lose control. You, dear reader, may not be experiencing challenges with emotional regulation. However, the data show that many working in the intense, high-stress environments of corrections and other public safety roles do struggle emotionally—at [...]

I was in the checkout line early in the morning at a local big box store a couple of weeks before Christmas. There was a hold up on one of the items I was purchasing and suddenly my heart started pounding, my mind racing, and then this wave of anxiety suddenly came over me. I was in panic mode. I ran out of the store and into my vehicle. I collapsed in the driver’s seat and started sobbing uncontrollably. After a few minutes I got myself composed and headed home. To say that going Christmas shopping on this morning was a truly bad idea, well, that would be an understatement. I thought that I could pull it off, but I was dead wrong. I didn’t know. I had never been through what occurred less than two days before. I had no point of reference. None!!! This was my first time being attacked. Webster’s Dictionary defines trauma as “an injury [...]

Investing in staff wellness in corrections isn’t just about launching a new program or ticking off a checklist. It’s about changing a culture. And when it comes to setting the “FromCorrections Fatigue to Fulfillment™” (CF2F) course up for success, that culture shift starts at the top—with leadership's behavior, not just their words.We’ve all heard the statements: “We care about employee wellness.”“Staff wellbeing is a priority.” These sentiments are well-intended. But frontline staff are less interested in the press releases and more attuned to what actually gets modeled day-to-day. In corrections, what gets noticed isn’t what’s said—it’s what’s done.Why Leadership Must Go FirstOne of the strongest signals to staff about the value of any initiative—especially one as personal as CF2F—is when administrators are the first to invest their time into it. And let’s be clear: we're not talking about sending out an email, assigning someone else to attend, or skimming a briefing document before a 15-minute debrief.CF2F is different. It’s not a tactical training. It’s not about compliance or [...]